The uncomfortable truth here is that identity formation happens whether we're conscious of it or not - the question is just whether we're designing those repeated behaviors or defaulting into them. What strikes me about this framing is how it sidesteps the motivation trap entirely. We spend so much energy trying to "become" someone different through willpower or inspiration, when the actual mechanism is much more mundane: just repeated action creating neural pathways and behavioral momentum. The gap between who we think we want to be and who we actually become is usually just the difference between stated intentions and actual repeated behaviors. That's both liberating (you can start now with any small action) and sobering (no amount of thinking about it replaces doing it).
The uncomfortable truth here is that identity formation happens whether we're conscious of it or not - the question is just whether we're designing those repeated behaviors or defaulting into them. What strikes me about this framing is how it sidesteps the motivation trap entirely. We spend so much energy trying to "become" someone different through willpower or inspiration, when the actual mechanism is much more mundane: just repeated action creating neural pathways and behavioral momentum. The gap between who we think we want to be and who we actually become is usually just the difference between stated intentions and actual repeated behaviors. That's both liberating (you can start now with any small action) and sobering (no amount of thinking about it replaces doing it).
This is exactly what I wanted to come across. Motivation is fleeting, it’s the autopilot that guides our lives. Thank you
This is a great mindset to enter a virtuous cycle in life
Godspeed, my friend
The pep talk I didn’t know I needed. Thank you.
Always